I came to this site a while ago to read about this because I thought that I was beginning to go through the same thing. Fortunately I've managed to turn things around. I found myself crying over these stories, thinking that I would end up the same. I have gone through this and I have laid in bed at night crying because my boyfriend wouldn't touch me, well I've found a cure for me and I hope that it will help some of you. I decided that communication wouldn't help after a few long conversations that always left me unsatisfied. I realized that if I wanted to have the perfect boyfriend, than I needed to be the perfect girlfriend. Crying to him and whining to my friends wasn't going to help anything. I know that he doesn't like touching or being touched and that he doesn't enjoy sex anywhere near as much as I do. Well if I wanted him to change for me then I needed to change for him first. I started acting the way I used to, when we first got together - cleaning the whole house, cooking and taking care of him, dressing up and putting make up on just to look beautiful for him and his reaction has been just what I was hoping for. You can't smother someone and expect them to open up to you, you have to let them come to you. I know it probably isn't the same thing for every man, because every man's fantasy is different. My boyfriend grew up with a mother who I swear is secretly a saint. She cleans and cooks and does EVERYTHING for all of her children, so I'm sure that it was something he was used to. Here I was, getting too comfortable and becoming lazy, I sat on my butt all day and complained when I had to do something. The fact is, men want you to take care of them they want you to make them feel like you appreciate them and all that they do for you. Sometimes you need to bend your beliefs and your thoughts on things for him, and when you can be open to do that for him than he will be more inclined to kiss you and touch you like he did before. Maybe getting dressed up in lingerie isn't what he wants, my boyfriend, for instance HATES lingerie and rather see me in a tank top than something like that. Who knows who your husbands/boyfriends fantasy girl is. Find out and turn into her :) and things will hopefully start going your way, I wish you all the best of luck!
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I came to this site a while ago to read about this because I thought that I was beginning to go through the same thing. Fortunately I've managed to turn things around. I found myself crying over these stories, thinking that I would end up the same. I have gone through this and I have laid in bed at night crying because my boyfriend wouldn't touch me, well I've found a cure for me and I hope that it will help some of you. I decided that communication wouldn't help after a few long conversations that always left me unsatisfied. I realized that if I wanted to have the perfect boyfriend, than I needed to be the perfect girlfriend. Crying to him and whining to my friends wasn't going to help anything. I know that he doesn't like touching or being touched and that he doesn't enjoy sex anywhere near as much as I do. Well if I wanted him to change for me then I needed to change for him first. I started acting the way I used to, when we first got together - cleaning the whole house, cooking and taking care of him, dressing up and putting make up on just to look beautiful for him and his reaction has been just what I was hoping for. You can't smother someone and expect them to open up to you, you have to let them come to you. I know it probably isn't the same thing for every man, because every man's fantasy is different. My boyfriend grew up with a mother who I swear is secretly a saint. She cleans and cooks and does EVERYTHING for all of her children, so I'm sure that it was something he was used to. Here I was, getting too comfortable and becoming lazy, I sat on my butt all day and complained when I had to do something. The fact is, men want you to take care of them they want you to make them feel like you appreciate them and all that they do for you. Sometimes you need to bend your beliefs and your thoughts on things for him, and when you can be open to do that for him than he will be more inclined to kiss you and touch you like he did before. Maybe getting dressed up in lingerie isn't what he wants, my boyfriend, for instance HATES lingerie and rather see me in a tank top than something like that. Who knows who your husbands/boyfriends fantasy girl is. Find out and turn into her :) and things will hopefully start going your way, I wish you all the best of luck!
December 18, 2009 - 10:10pmThis Comment
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