I agree with alysiak, it might be useful to you to learn how to argue constructively. There is such a thing.
I would venture to guess that the reason sex doesn't even cross his mind most of the time, like he says is because you guys are having communication problems and arguments. I don't think one can be truly happy most of the time, if one isn't happy at home with one's partner. I think it's important to deal with this problem with your husband and not just learn do deal with it, in the meaning of learn to live with it, which to me sounds so negative and pessimistic and like you've already given up without even lifting a finger yet...Look, marriage isn't easy, and if you go into marriage thinking it should just happen on its own, then you get into all sorts of trouble. I think we should have Marriage 101 in high school as a mandatory class. Marriage takes work. However, the work you put into it is so worth it. FYI, I am single, never married, no children, am in a relationship. So I may not have the experience that married people have or divorced people have, but I make it a point to always read about what makes marriage works, and learn about them in television, etc. where ever I turn my head. If I ever marry some day, I want to make sure I am prepared and educated in the best possible way to make it work. Trusting in God and reading the bible on the marriage principles help a lot. Asking God for answers where answers is no where to be found works.
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I agree with alysiak, it might be useful to you to learn how to argue constructively. There is such a thing.
November 12, 2009 - 10:22pmI would venture to guess that the reason sex doesn't even cross his mind most of the time, like he says is because you guys are having communication problems and arguments. I don't think one can be truly happy most of the time, if one isn't happy at home with one's partner. I think it's important to deal with this problem with your husband and not just learn do deal with it, in the meaning of learn to live with it, which to me sounds so negative and pessimistic and like you've already given up without even lifting a finger yet...Look, marriage isn't easy, and if you go into marriage thinking it should just happen on its own, then you get into all sorts of trouble. I think we should have Marriage 101 in high school as a mandatory class. Marriage takes work. However, the work you put into it is so worth it. FYI, I am single, never married, no children, am in a relationship. So I may not have the experience that married people have or divorced people have, but I make it a point to always read about what makes marriage works, and learn about them in television, etc. where ever I turn my head. If I ever marry some day, I want to make sure I am prepared and educated in the best possible way to make it work. Trusting in God and reading the bible on the marriage principles help a lot. Asking God for answers where answers is no where to be found works.
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