I actually read through all the comments as I might be in a similar situations and want to find a solution. To the poster above, a man, well it goes both ways. When men sit on the couch and watch sports that does not make them very attractive. For many women, the arousal starts on a mental level, and there are many ways to win a girl's heart. I don't know what man can complain if he is not able to communicate his needs. I think women try and still they don't get what they ask for.
I have been with my husband for about seven years and married for one. I must have not read the signs or ignored them. It seems that my husband does not like to be touched in any way. I am out of ideas for getting him aroused or even getting close to him as I get rejected many times. I am not touching him the right way. Yet, he has told me that he expects me to initiate sex. Whatever happened to a man being easily aroused. Maybe we both have low libido, maybe we both are expecting the other to start something. All I know, it is not healthy right now. I liked the poster who said, to just be with him. It would be nice to at least be sensual without the sex but it seems like there is no middle ground. I understand that two people can come to a compromise if they really love each other. But how can you suppress a part of you. Sexuality is healthy and necessary. It is so sad that this seems to be such a common problem. I hope that it will be resolved for me and my marriage and for all of you who posted. Somehow. There must be a way to make it work.
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I actually read through all the comments as I might be in a similar situations and want to find a solution. To the poster above, a man, well it goes both ways. When men sit on the couch and watch sports that does not make them very attractive. For many women, the arousal starts on a mental level, and there are many ways to win a girl's heart. I don't know what man can complain if he is not able to communicate his needs. I think women try and still they don't get what they ask for.
October 5, 2009 - 2:28pmI have been with my husband for about seven years and married for one. I must have not read the signs or ignored them. It seems that my husband does not like to be touched in any way. I am out of ideas for getting him aroused or even getting close to him as I get rejected many times. I am not touching him the right way. Yet, he has told me that he expects me to initiate sex. Whatever happened to a man being easily aroused. Maybe we both have low libido, maybe we both are expecting the other to start something. All I know, it is not healthy right now. I liked the poster who said, to just be with him. It would be nice to at least be sensual without the sex but it seems like there is no middle ground. I understand that two people can come to a compromise if they really love each other. But how can you suppress a part of you. Sexuality is healthy and necessary. It is so sad that this seems to be such a common problem. I hope that it will be resolved for me and my marriage and for all of you who posted. Somehow. There must be a way to make it work.
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