reesiegirl929
What a heart wrenching story! I am so sorry that your heart was broken that way. It's good that you know that IT WASN'T ABOUT YOU. He failed you! You did everything by the book and when you do that, you can always walk away knowing that if you had it to do again, you'd know better... but you have NO REGRET. The hardest lessons in life to learn - that make you WISE are ones that you have to experience. Otherwise, it's affect on you isn't the same. Once you survive something of that nature... You can always look back and say - and there was a red flag, and there was another... and I SHOULD have paid more attention to "that" ... so on!! That way next time around, you don't have the "happily ever after" eyes, when you are picking a mate. We all do it, we were girls.. learning about fairytales and princes and men who'd save us and protect us. We had NO IDEA... why it was called a "Fairytale"!
If we are smart (and I like to think we are) we don't make excuses for them, we don't love them for their "potential" or how well they fit into the fairytale we have made up in our minds... BELIEVE ME, been there done that MORE than once.
And we can teach our daughters, our neighbors, our neices and younger siblings... whatever, that we have to pay attention to all those tale tale signs, that we usually miss when we are caught up in love. Because in the end, you had better be married to your best friend (and NO best friends do not leave the other hung out to dry in love, passion and sex!) because in the end... they will be your companion, who better be making you laugh, loving you when you are impossible and holding you when the world seems like it is out to get you...
Don't give up in your heart or in your mind on the type of marriage you wanted and still do! Just be more selective...when dating - talk less and listen more! They will tell you everything you need to know... IF we would just zip our lips and let them talk... if it is an uncompfortable silence a time or two... then it is... let them talk about THEM! Don't tell them about your WHOLE LIFE story and all your hurts and aches and pains right away... that's way too easy!! Tell them gradually, over time... over years if needed, don't give them all the pieces to your puzzle. BE SELECTIVE! You deserve it!!
And by the way, God brought him into your life for a reason - it's up to you to pin that together. Then God will make way for the one he wants you to have (assuming you don't have him now...:)
Some of this was for others as well... not meaning to assume... take care!!
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reesiegirl929
What a heart wrenching story! I am so sorry that your heart was broken that way. It's good that you know that IT WASN'T ABOUT YOU. He failed you! You did everything by the book and when you do that, you can always walk away knowing that if you had it to do again, you'd know better... but you have NO REGRET. The hardest lessons in life to learn - that make you WISE are ones that you have to experience. Otherwise, it's affect on you isn't the same. Once you survive something of that nature... You can always look back and say - and there was a red flag, and there was another... and I SHOULD have paid more attention to "that" ... so on!! That way next time around, you don't have the "happily ever after" eyes, when you are picking a mate. We all do it, we were girls.. learning about fairytales and princes and men who'd save us and protect us. We had NO IDEA... why it was called a "Fairytale"!
If we are smart (and I like to think we are) we don't make excuses for them, we don't love them for their "potential" or how well they fit into the fairytale we have made up in our minds... BELIEVE ME, been there done that MORE than once.
And we can teach our daughters, our neighbors, our neices and younger siblings... whatever, that we have to pay attention to all those tale tale signs, that we usually miss when we are caught up in love. Because in the end, you had better be married to your best friend (and NO best friends do not leave the other hung out to dry in love, passion and sex!) because in the end... they will be your companion, who better be making you laugh, loving you when you are impossible and holding you when the world seems like it is out to get you...
Don't give up in your heart or in your mind on the type of marriage you wanted and still do! Just be more selective...when dating - talk less and listen more! They will tell you everything you need to know... IF we would just zip our lips and let them talk... if it is an uncompfortable silence a time or two... then it is... let them talk about THEM! Don't tell them about your WHOLE LIFE story and all your hurts and aches and pains right away... that's way too easy!! Tell them gradually, over time... over years if needed, don't give them all the pieces to your puzzle. BE SELECTIVE! You deserve it!!
And by the way, God brought him into your life for a reason - it's up to you to pin that together. Then God will make way for the one he wants you to have (assuming you don't have him now...:)
August 11, 2009 - 10:48amSome of this was for others as well... not meaning to assume... take care!!
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