It certainly wasn't my intention to assume that none of the people above have tried to just accept their lot, I was simply putting it out there as a possibility. It comes from years of not accepting it as a possibility and fighting and fighting and fighting myself into a state of emotional exhaustion. There can never be a one size fits all answer to any persons relationship especially when it comes to sex and emotional giving. All we can do is try and explain a little of what we have gone through, and describe the mechanisms we have put in place to try and cope. I dont want to patronise anyone, or tell them to do things this way or that way, I simply want the women out there who are struggling with a situation similar to mine, to know that there are other women out there who feel their pain, know what they are going through, and only hope that they come through it as unscathed as possible. There is nothing worse than thinking you are the only one.
Mental and emotional abuse? Yup - you're probably right though Ive gotta say it sounds pretty dramatic. Sadly life comes down to those people who love you and those who treat you like crap - Im not sure assigning the label "abuse" is always terribly healthy....but hey whatever works for you.
By the way, good for you for having the strength, courage and emotional agility TO actually leave. Its good to see that the abuse hasn't been going on so long as to render you incapable of any show of strength far less removing yourself from your situation. Truly, I think you should be applauded for your choice, and I know I speak for everyone that has ever been in this situation when I say that I hope the next guy you meet makes you feel great about yourself and offers you the emotional support and care we all crave and deserve, because god knows anyone who goes through this really deserves a break! Good luck with it all!
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It certainly wasn't my intention to assume that none of the people above have tried to just accept their lot, I was simply putting it out there as a possibility. It comes from years of not accepting it as a possibility and fighting and fighting and fighting myself into a state of emotional exhaustion. There can never be a one size fits all answer to any persons relationship especially when it comes to sex and emotional giving. All we can do is try and explain a little of what we have gone through, and describe the mechanisms we have put in place to try and cope. I dont want to patronise anyone, or tell them to do things this way or that way, I simply want the women out there who are struggling with a situation similar to mine, to know that there are other women out there who feel their pain, know what they are going through, and only hope that they come through it as unscathed as possible. There is nothing worse than thinking you are the only one.
August 4, 2009 - 8:05amMental and emotional abuse? Yup - you're probably right though Ive gotta say it sounds pretty dramatic. Sadly life comes down to those people who love you and those who treat you like crap - Im not sure assigning the label "abuse" is always terribly healthy....but hey whatever works for you.
By the way, good for you for having the strength, courage and emotional agility TO actually leave. Its good to see that the abuse hasn't been going on so long as to render you incapable of any show of strength far less removing yourself from your situation. Truly, I think you should be applauded for your choice, and I know I speak for everyone that has ever been in this situation when I say that I hope the next guy you meet makes you feel great about yourself and offers you the emotional support and care we all crave and deserve, because god knows anyone who goes through this really deserves a break! Good luck with it all!
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