Let me interject here with a different perspective. We all know men don't communicate the same way women do. If a guy wants to break things off with a girl, he will frequently act like such a jerk that we dump them. That way they are off the hook. If they are cheating, they will accuse the woman of cheating. My grandmother used to say that a man won't look for shoes under his bed unless he's been hiding his own under another's. She was wise. Mine didn't want sex with me, but loved porn sites and self love. Now that we split, he wants me all the time. He tells me now that he was intimidated because he couldn't satisfy me all the time. He forgets that it usually only lasted 3 minutes with minimal foreplay. It takes longer than that to get warmed up.
He also was competitive with my son for my attention. He constantly found fault with him. It really was a nightmare. I wound up just getting bombed every night so I wouldn't have to deal with it. Not a good place to be and I gained 50 pounds. Don't let this happen to you.
I have found that people treat you the way you let them, not the way you deserve. Demand respect for yourself and if he can't or won't-- cut your losses. Do you really want to be 60 in a sexless and miserable marriage? I didn't.
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Let me interject here with a different perspective. We all know men don't communicate the same way women do. If a guy wants to break things off with a girl, he will frequently act like such a jerk that we dump them. That way they are off the hook. If they are cheating, they will accuse the woman of cheating. My grandmother used to say that a man won't look for shoes under his bed unless he's been hiding his own under another's. She was wise. Mine didn't want sex with me, but loved porn sites and self love. Now that we split, he wants me all the time. He tells me now that he was intimidated because he couldn't satisfy me all the time. He forgets that it usually only lasted 3 minutes with minimal foreplay. It takes longer than that to get warmed up.
He also was competitive with my son for my attention. He constantly found fault with him. It really was a nightmare. I wound up just getting bombed every night so I wouldn't have to deal with it. Not a good place to be and I gained 50 pounds. Don't let this happen to you.
I have found that people treat you the way you let them, not the way you deserve. Demand respect for yourself and if he can't or won't-- cut your losses. Do you really want to be 60 in a sexless and miserable marriage? I didn't.
July 20, 2009 - 10:21amThis Comment
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