I just stumbled across this post. I may not be welcome here being a man, but I feel the need to post something about this subject.
I am a 39 year old healthy and male. I am sexually attracted to my wife. The thing is I don't have the same sex drive as my wife. I could be considered by some to be the anti-male in that I just don't really think about sex that much. It could be some chemical imbalance I don't know or care. My wife and I had problems for a while with this before we finally worked it out. The issue was not mine or hers it was OURS. My part was feeling like she was asking for too much with her sexual needs, and her part was confusing love with sex. She thought that my not wanting sex meant I didn't love or want her. Once we talked about this without fighting (that took several attempts) things got much better. I actually began to give my wife more attention and she started to see the other ways I would show my love and commitment.
Anyway that was my way of saying that the only way to resolve this is to keep trying to talk about it.
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I just stumbled across this post. I may not be welcome here being a man, but I feel the need to post something about this subject.
I am a 39 year old healthy and male. I am sexually attracted to my wife. The thing is I don't have the same sex drive as my wife. I could be considered by some to be the anti-male in that I just don't really think about sex that much. It could be some chemical imbalance I don't know or care. My wife and I had problems for a while with this before we finally worked it out. The issue was not mine or hers it was OURS. My part was feeling like she was asking for too much with her sexual needs, and her part was confusing love with sex. She thought that my not wanting sex meant I didn't love or want her. Once we talked about this without fighting (that took several attempts) things got much better. I actually began to give my wife more attention and she started to see the other ways I would show my love and commitment.
Anyway that was my way of saying that the only way to resolve this is to keep trying to talk about it.
July 13, 2009 - 1:34pmThis Comment
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