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DiW, what a heartbreaking situation. I'm so glad you found EmpowHer. Let's see what we can find out for you.

May I ask a few more questions?

How long were you together before you got married? Did you have this problem before your marriage at all?

Has anything changed in your lives besides the fact that you got married? Work stress, job changes, family problems, medical issues, anything like that?

Are you trying to get pregnant? If so, are you both in agreement on wanting to try?

Please understand that this is not about you -- it's something going on within him. You are a normal, healthy 39-year-old woman, and sex is a natural desire. I completely understand why you might feel that you are repulsive to him, but that feeling won't help get you through this time. You need to realize that you are just as attractive, loving, loyal and good as you were in the past, and that for some reason, he's having a problem right now seeing or feeling that.

Give us a little more information and let us try to help.