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Well, where do I start. All I have to say is this website is so comforting, but yet I find myself so saddened that so many other women are going through this also.
I've been with my husband for a little over 11 years. We've been married for 6 years and I'll tell you, the sex hasn't ever really been ideal. In the begining I told myself that it will get better. Early on I got pregnant. When we got engaged 7 years ago, our sex life was at it's peak, once every other week.
The last couple of years have been the worst. I have asked him on occasian during some of the many dry spells we had, why? I never really get a concrete answer, but I know he feels like I am pushy. I really don't start trying to initiate it untill it's been quite a while since the last time and then he feels like I am pushing him. I don't know what to do because he's pretty high strung and a lot of times he jumps when I try to touch him. The most I ever am allowed to do is rub his back and he's turned away from me. I never get passionate kisses, I can't remember the last time I had an opened mouth kiss, I'd say over two years ago.
I know most women would be long gone by now, but we have a child, we do have fun together, except when it comes to the bedroom. We watch movies together, go out occasionally, both love football, and I feel like somehow I am a bitch if I were to end my marriage because of lack of sex.
He's told me before that it was never like this with the last person he was with and that he would fix this, but yet he takes no initiative to do it on his own. I know he won't do counseling because he says he feels worse after counseling than he did before he went. I am not about to make a dr. appointment for someone who seems to have no interest to take the first step themselves to fix it. He tells me he would have sex if he could, but at the same time doesn't seem to be phased by the lack of it. I can't remember the last time we had sex, I want to say January, but I am not even sure, it might've been 2011.
I feel like I have no one to confide in because all my friends are friends with him and I feel bad airing this out to them, because I don't think he'd like them knowing about our bedroom business, I really need to talk to someone though, because I feel so isolated right now. I know he's not cheating on me, because he has no time. He doesn't really care for porn. I can't live much longer like this because it's seriously breaking my heart. I don't want to wake up one day and now it's been 20 years of being miserable without feeling loved. I truly believe he's either got ED or he has a low T level, but without seeing the dr. nothing can be done. He cut his finger pretty deep when we were moving, but he's so stubborn with dr's I couldn't talk him into getting it checked out.
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August 2, 2012 - 2:20amWell, where do I start. All I have to say is this website is so comforting, but yet I find myself so saddened that so many other women are going through this also.
I've been with my husband for a little over 11 years. We've been married for 6 years and I'll tell you, the sex hasn't ever really been ideal. In the begining I told myself that it will get better. Early on I got pregnant. When we got engaged 7 years ago, our sex life was at it's peak, once every other week.
The last couple of years have been the worst. I have asked him on occasian during some of the many dry spells we had, why? I never really get a concrete answer, but I know he feels like I am pushy. I really don't start trying to initiate it untill it's been quite a while since the last time and then he feels like I am pushing him. I don't know what to do because he's pretty high strung and a lot of times he jumps when I try to touch him. The most I ever am allowed to do is rub his back and he's turned away from me. I never get passionate kisses, I can't remember the last time I had an opened mouth kiss, I'd say over two years ago.
I know most women would be long gone by now, but we have a child, we do have fun together, except when it comes to the bedroom. We watch movies together, go out occasionally, both love football, and I feel like somehow I am a bitch if I were to end my marriage because of lack of sex.
He's told me before that it was never like this with the last person he was with and that he would fix this, but yet he takes no initiative to do it on his own. I know he won't do counseling because he says he feels worse after counseling than he did before he went. I am not about to make a dr. appointment for someone who seems to have no interest to take the first step themselves to fix it. He tells me he would have sex if he could, but at the same time doesn't seem to be phased by the lack of it. I can't remember the last time we had sex, I want to say January, but I am not even sure, it might've been 2011.
I feel like I have no one to confide in because all my friends are friends with him and I feel bad airing this out to them, because I don't think he'd like them knowing about our bedroom business, I really need to talk to someone though, because I feel so isolated right now. I know he's not cheating on me, because he has no time. He doesn't really care for porn. I can't live much longer like this because it's seriously breaking my heart. I don't want to wake up one day and now it's been 20 years of being miserable without feeling loved. I truly believe he's either got ED or he has a low T level, but without seeing the dr. nothing can be done. He cut his finger pretty deep when we were moving, but he's so stubborn with dr's I couldn't talk him into getting it checked out.
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