I'm 21 and have been in a relationship with my now husband since August 2008. We have a two year old with a muscular/skeletal disease and are expecting again in June 2012. We only got married in October 2011,and I know it was only because I got pregnant. We always talked about marriage while he was in the process of getting a divorce from his ex,but when the time came he just didn't want to do it. In 11 weeks we've had sex 4 times. I have initiated it every time and even get turned down on most occasions. This has been happening for years. He never wants me, I even try to give him blow jobs and he rolls on his back and says no. I'm a cute girl, a good mother and a great house wife. I care for our daughter alone despite her chronic medical condition. I've tried looking at his phone a few times, and he literally wrestles me over it, or has a death grip on it. He even sleeps with it in his pocket with his hand over it. We fight often, everytime i try to talk,he says I'm always bitching. We barely socialize with eacother. I admit I don't have much to talk about, I have zero friends because they all spoke negative things about my child. The only person I see and speak to daily is my mother. He ignores constantly,even if iaskhim to feed our daughter before I to the store I come home to a full bottle and when I confront him he says i never told him to do anything. If we fight he blames all of our problems on me. He leaves for hours or is very late coming home from work at least twice a week and if I ask where he was he just blows me off. I feel like a maid and nanny. He never wants to go out on the rare occasion when my mom can babysit, and in public if I try to hold his hand he pulls away and walks ahead of me. I try so hard to be a good wife. He can't even kiss me without rolling his eyes and he doesn't even pucker his lips. If we do have sex and I'm on top he pulls my head down so my face is in his shoulder and he's not looking at me, or a position where he can't see my face at all. I love him more than words can say but I think any love he once had for me disappeared. I'm accused of cheating, although I only leave our home for less than an hour maybe 4 times a month. He always says he's sorry after we have sex. And he never wants to just be by me. I'm at a loss. I don't know what else I can do. He's a good father and a great provider and gives me anything money can buy. I'd much rather have love, intimacy and attention. I just don't know.
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I'm 21 and have been in a relationship with my now husband since August 2008. We have a two year old with a muscular/skeletal disease and are expecting again in June 2012. We only got married in October 2011,and I know it was only because I got pregnant. We always talked about marriage while he was in the process of getting a divorce from his ex,but when the time came he just didn't want to do it. In 11 weeks we've had sex 4 times. I have initiated it every time and even get turned down on most occasions. This has been happening for years. He never wants me, I even try to give him blow jobs and he rolls on his back and says no. I'm a cute girl, a good mother and a great house wife. I care for our daughter alone despite her chronic medical condition. I've tried looking at his phone a few times, and he literally wrestles me over it, or has a death grip on it. He even sleeps with it in his pocket with his hand over it. We fight often, everytime i try to talk,he says I'm always bitching. We barely socialize with eacother. I admit I don't have much to talk about, I have zero friends because they all spoke negative things about my child. The only person I see and speak to daily is my mother. He ignores constantly,even if iaskhim to feed our daughter before I to the store I come home to a full bottle and when I confront him he says i never told him to do anything. If we fight he blames all of our problems on me. He leaves for hours or is very late coming home from work at least twice a week and if I ask where he was he just blows me off. I feel like a maid and nanny. He never wants to go out on the rare occasion when my mom can babysit, and in public if I try to hold his hand he pulls away and walks ahead of me. I try so hard to be a good wife. He can't even kiss me without rolling his eyes and he doesn't even pucker his lips. If we do have sex and I'm on top he pulls my head down so my face is in his shoulder and he's not looking at me, or a position where he can't see my face at all. I love him more than words can say but I think any love he once had for me disappeared. I'm accused of cheating, although I only leave our home for less than an hour maybe 4 times a month. He always says he's sorry after we have sex. And he never wants to just be by me. I'm at a loss. I don't know what else I can do. He's a good father and a great provider and gives me anything money can buy. I'd much rather have love, intimacy and attention. I just don't know.
November 29, 2011 - 11:15pmThis Comment
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