Susan,
Yes it is an outlandish crazy story, but true. I agree I think she may be doing the same thing to some other guy now, as you are correct people like that don't generally change.
My husband was guilty of having the affair and choosing to believe her crazy stories. He said he felt trapped by all the insanity. She was very believable and went to great lengths to suck him in. I'm NOT defending him in any way. He made the choice to cheat, something he will have to live with the rest of his life. He also has to live with the guilt of being duped by this woman, and how she played on his sympathies and controlled the relationship by pretending to have cancer. No question she played him and he allowed it!
Sometimes it takes something horrific to get your attention. It has been 21/2 years since the affair ended, and our marriage is fabulous now. We immediately went into therapy and committed ourselves to doing the work needed to fix us. We are happier than we have ever been. I think people lose sight of what is important, especially when you have been married for a long time. We will be married 30 years next month. We have 3 beautiful children, our family is whole! People need to work on their marriage in order for it to be balanced and healthy. I know many of my friends are now divorcing after almost 3 decades of marriage. A happy marriage takes work everyday. Too many of us work at everything but our marriages and then find themselves in a sad a lonely place and wonder how they arrived at this place. Do we both wish the affair never happened? ABSOLUTELY! But it did and we can't go back and change the past. We now find ourselves in a much better place. Marriages do survive infidelity. But you both have to be willing to the work, and put your marriage first.
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Susan,
Yes it is an outlandish crazy story, but true. I agree I think she may be doing the same thing to some other guy now, as you are correct people like that don't generally change.
My husband was guilty of having the affair and choosing to believe her crazy stories. He said he felt trapped by all the insanity. She was very believable and went to great lengths to suck him in. I'm NOT defending him in any way. He made the choice to cheat, something he will have to live with the rest of his life. He also has to live with the guilt of being duped by this woman, and how she played on his sympathies and controlled the relationship by pretending to have cancer. No question she played him and he allowed it!
Sometimes it takes something horrific to get your attention. It has been 21/2 years since the affair ended, and our marriage is fabulous now. We immediately went into therapy and committed ourselves to doing the work needed to fix us. We are happier than we have ever been. I think people lose sight of what is important, especially when you have been married for a long time. We will be married 30 years next month. We have 3 beautiful children, our family is whole! People need to work on their marriage in order for it to be balanced and healthy. I know many of my friends are now divorcing after almost 3 decades of marriage. A happy marriage takes work everyday. Too many of us work at everything but our marriages and then find themselves in a sad a lonely place and wonder how they arrived at this place. Do we both wish the affair never happened? ABSOLUTELY! But it did and we can't go back and change the past. We now find ourselves in a much better place. Marriages do survive infidelity. But you both have to be willing to the work, and put your marriage first.
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