My husband had an affair with a woman in his office who feigned cancer for 5 years. She was someone that people in the office referenced as the drama queen. She was not well liked. She was always whining and crying at the office. Many found her annoying. Looking back he realizes he should have taken this as a sign. Instead he was at a low place in his life/marriage and mistakenly thought she needed a a friend.
Initially she was secretive about what her health issues were. She would have to take the phone call from her Doctor in private, then not share what the call was about. But she would insinuate that it was something bad. Then as their relationship started she told him she had ovarian cancer. She was receiving chemo and radiation for this, but opted not to have the hysterectomy as she did not want to alter her body. First red flag! After several rounds of chemo and radiation she declared that she was now cancer free. When my husband tried to break it off with her, the cancer was not only back, but was back in several other places. More chemo more radiation And the cycle continues. During their almost 5 year affair she called him crying from her new employer several times, supposedly hemorrhaging in the bathroom. He offered to take her to the hospital but she would always call him back stating that someone from work was giving her a ride. Always the very next day she was recovered and didn't want to discuss her illness as it depressed her, she only wanted to continue to live her life as normal as possible for as long as she had left.
She told my husband that her husband was in denial and didn't want to deal with her cancer. Over the course of their affair, there were several weekend hospital near death experiences. Where my husband would get a text from her phone ( by a friend) that her family had been called and they didn't think she was gonna make it. Only to surprise him on Monday morning at the local Starbucks for their secret meetings. When he inquired about the text MSG over the weekend again she said she didn't want to discuss as it was much to painful to have to relive.
She was always asking for him to take her to her chemo and radiation appointments. When he would finally agree to take her she would call and tell him her mom was gonna take her. When he did surprise her once at a chemo appointment, the surprise was on him. As she was not there and they had never heard of her. When he confronted her with this info, she claimed that he just missed her and must have talk to the wrong nurse.
Every time (and there were several) he tried to break it off with her the cancer always came back. Ovarian, kidney, bladder, lymph nodes.... on and on. Miraculously this woman never missed a day of work, never missed a morning coffee or lunch date. But she was dying on Sunday night!!
Her husband has a degenerative eye disease and according to her can not drive. So she would always have a neighbor take her to the hospital in the middle of the night. Funny how he wouldn't go with. According to her he would wait til he knew she was dying. She said her husband was uncaring and didn't love her. Wonder why?
She wrote a letter to my husband instructing him not to open til after her death. He opened it immediately and she just said what a good friend he has been through her cancer and all her treatments and how she appreciated having him there for her, since her husband was not interested in her illness.
When they got caught, everything imploding in her face. We told her husband all about the cancer she feigned and he was in shock. There were no Doctor visits, no hospital stays, no chemo no radiation, no cancer. She made all of it up! Even her best friend was in dis belief.
So why do people think it is OK to play on someone's sympathies, manipulate and control someone by pretending they are at deaths door?
I have had many friends and family with cancer several have lost their lives to cancer. It is an horrific way to die. Who would feign cancer? I don't get it!
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My husband had an affair with a woman in his office who feigned cancer for 5 years. She was someone that people in the office referenced as the drama queen. She was not well liked. She was always whining and crying at the office. Many found her annoying. Looking back he realizes he should have taken this as a sign. Instead he was at a low place in his life/marriage and mistakenly thought she needed a a friend.
October 5, 2011 - 1:02pmInitially she was secretive about what her health issues were. She would have to take the phone call from her Doctor in private, then not share what the call was about. But she would insinuate that it was something bad. Then as their relationship started she told him she had ovarian cancer. She was receiving chemo and radiation for this, but opted not to have the hysterectomy as she did not want to alter her body. First red flag! After several rounds of chemo and radiation she declared that she was now cancer free. When my husband tried to break it off with her, the cancer was not only back, but was back in several other places. More chemo more radiation And the cycle continues. During their almost 5 year affair she called him crying from her new employer several times, supposedly hemorrhaging in the bathroom. He offered to take her to the hospital but she would always call him back stating that someone from work was giving her a ride. Always the very next day she was recovered and didn't want to discuss her illness as it depressed her, she only wanted to continue to live her life as normal as possible for as long as she had left.
She told my husband that her husband was in denial and didn't want to deal with her cancer. Over the course of their affair, there were several weekend hospital near death experiences. Where my husband would get a text from her phone ( by a friend) that her family had been called and they didn't think she was gonna make it. Only to surprise him on Monday morning at the local Starbucks for their secret meetings. When he inquired about the text MSG over the weekend again she said she didn't want to discuss as it was much to painful to have to relive.
She was always asking for him to take her to her chemo and radiation appointments. When he would finally agree to take her she would call and tell him her mom was gonna take her. When he did surprise her once at a chemo appointment, the surprise was on him. As she was not there and they had never heard of her. When he confronted her with this info, she claimed that he just missed her and must have talk to the wrong nurse.
Every time (and there were several) he tried to break it off with her the cancer always came back. Ovarian, kidney, bladder, lymph nodes.... on and on. Miraculously this woman never missed a day of work, never missed a morning coffee or lunch date. But she was dying on Sunday night!!
Her husband has a degenerative eye disease and according to her can not drive. So she would always have a neighbor take her to the hospital in the middle of the night. Funny how he wouldn't go with. According to her he would wait til he knew she was dying. She said her husband was uncaring and didn't love her. Wonder why?
She wrote a letter to my husband instructing him not to open til after her death. He opened it immediately and she just said what a good friend he has been through her cancer and all her treatments and how she appreciated having him there for her, since her husband was not interested in her illness.
When they got caught, everything imploding in her face. We told her husband all about the cancer she feigned and he was in shock. There were no Doctor visits, no hospital stays, no chemo no radiation, no cancer. She made all of it up! Even her best friend was in dis belief.
So why do people think it is OK to play on someone's sympathies, manipulate and control someone by pretending they are at deaths door?
I have had many friends and family with cancer several have lost their lives to cancer. It is an horrific way to die. Who would feign cancer? I don't get it!
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