Thank you for getting back to us. Your original post has affected so many people, as you can see, and I often wondered how you were doing.
I think you are thoughtful, brave and smart. You clearly have worked through this in many complicated ways, step by step, and it has led you here. You are caring for your son and yourself, and that's really the bottom line. I hope that you don't give in to the "guilt" feelings that you speak of, because there's nothing that can be gained by that.
I heard a psychologist one time say that we misuse "guilt" in our lives. He said that guilt, actually, has to do with Committing A Crime. We are guilty when we INTENDED to do something wrong. Not when we are trying hard to do something right.
I hope that you have found calm and peace in your decision (between the chaos that the new decision has certainly brought you, what with the moving and him pulling on your emotions every time you turn around). Please breathe, have confidence in your decision, and know that you are doing exactly what you must do. I hope we hear from you again soon. All the best.
Comment Reply
Anon,
Thank you for getting back to us. Your original post has affected so many people, as you can see, and I often wondered how you were doing.
I think you are thoughtful, brave and smart. You clearly have worked through this in many complicated ways, step by step, and it has led you here. You are caring for your son and yourself, and that's really the bottom line. I hope that you don't give in to the "guilt" feelings that you speak of, because there's nothing that can be gained by that.
I heard a psychologist one time say that we misuse "guilt" in our lives. He said that guilt, actually, has to do with Committing A Crime. We are guilty when we INTENDED to do something wrong. Not when we are trying hard to do something right.
I hope that you have found calm and peace in your decision (between the chaos that the new decision has certainly brought you, what with the moving and him pulling on your emotions every time you turn around). Please breathe, have confidence in your decision, and know that you are doing exactly what you must do. I hope we hear from you again soon. All the best.
October 14, 2009 - 8:14amThis Comment
Reply