I am so glad to hear back from you! It sounds like you have a difficult road ahead of you, but the most emotionally difficult decision has been made in your and your son's best interests. I agree that your son will learn about relationships (both the good and bad) from what his parents model. You have a lot of courage to get out of an abusive relationship (the cycle-of-abuse is so clear with the "honeymoon phase" then the inevitable "abuse phase"), but unfortunately, we can not put ourselves in harm's way, even if that person is sick. You are able to provide for him financially, but are not able to provide for him emotionally when you are being emotionally tormented and abused; whatever the reason. There are so many people who have physical and mental disabilities and conditions/diseases, and do not behave abusively toward their loved ones and care givers. I'm so glad you are strong enough to believe in yourself to make a change in your life.
I will be thinking about you and your son, and I hope you keep us updated on how you are doing. Please let us know if there is anything at all we can do for you and your son. I'm glad to hear that you can stay with your parents (we did this too, and you are right---it is inconvenient and difficult at times, but I presume you and your son are going to a more loving, supportive and caring environment that will bring both of you peace and happiness).
I'm so happy that you are continuing to talk with your counselor, and I'd be interested to hear if it is recommended that your son talk with a counselor, too, regarding the divorce (not sure if that is a good idea for kids or not??).
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I am so glad to hear back from you! It sounds like you have a difficult road ahead of you, but the most emotionally difficult decision has been made in your and your son's best interests. I agree that your son will learn about relationships (both the good and bad) from what his parents model. You have a lot of courage to get out of an abusive relationship (the cycle-of-abuse is so clear with the "honeymoon phase" then the inevitable "abuse phase"), but unfortunately, we can not put ourselves in harm's way, even if that person is sick. You are able to provide for him financially, but are not able to provide for him emotionally when you are being emotionally tormented and abused; whatever the reason. There are so many people who have physical and mental disabilities and conditions/diseases, and do not behave abusively toward their loved ones and care givers. I'm so glad you are strong enough to believe in yourself to make a change in your life.
I will be thinking about you and your son, and I hope you keep us updated on how you are doing. Please let us know if there is anything at all we can do for you and your son. I'm glad to hear that you can stay with your parents (we did this too, and you are right---it is inconvenient and difficult at times, but I presume you and your son are going to a more loving, supportive and caring environment that will bring both of you peace and happiness).
I'm so happy that you are continuing to talk with your counselor, and I'd be interested to hear if it is recommended that your son talk with a counselor, too, regarding the divorce (not sure if that is a good idea for kids or not??).
Take care,
October 13, 2009 - 7:57pmAlison B.
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