So much is written about leaving the person who is ill. My partner has had cancer for several years which was responding to treatment until about a year ago. 90% of the time before that he was positive and a really great person although he could be very moody and highly irrational at times. As the medication stopped working a year ago and needed to be changed, he also changed, becoming withdrawn, very tired and often very irrational. Out of the blue, 6 months ago, he decided he wanted a break, could not cope any longer and moved out. Our relationship changed to one where it was all about him and what he wanted. He wanted to be able to dictate what he wanted, what the terms of our relationship should be, when he would contact me, etc. After months waiting for him to set the pace, never knowing whether he would respond to any contact from me but mostly waiting for him, he still could not make up his mind.I eventually asked him to decide one way or the other. He has now left. I have been so devasted. Firstly by his treatment of me, and secondly by his diagnosis and the change in the man who I loved so much. How can someone change so drastically? From being a caring, loving person to one who is completely self centred. Is this what such a disease does to someone?
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So much is written about leaving the person who is ill. My partner has had cancer for several years which was responding to treatment until about a year ago. 90% of the time before that he was positive and a really great person although he could be very moody and highly irrational at times. As the medication stopped working a year ago and needed to be changed, he also changed, becoming withdrawn, very tired and often very irrational. Out of the blue, 6 months ago, he decided he wanted a break, could not cope any longer and moved out. Our relationship changed to one where it was all about him and what he wanted. He wanted to be able to dictate what he wanted, what the terms of our relationship should be, when he would contact me, etc. After months waiting for him to set the pace, never knowing whether he would respond to any contact from me but mostly waiting for him, he still could not make up his mind.I eventually asked him to decide one way or the other. He has now left. I have been so devasted. Firstly by his treatment of me, and secondly by his diagnosis and the change in the man who I loved so much. How can someone change so drastically? From being a caring, loving person to one who is completely self centred. Is this what such a disease does to someone?
August 4, 2009 - 2:23pmThis Comment
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