It isn't your fault... I think that he is yelling at you because he is frustrated and you are the easiest target because you are right there. That, plus he gets away with it. You don't have to yell to stand your ground, in fact I think it's much more effective if you stay calm. "Why are you yelling at me? We both know it's not my fault, and I'm sorry that you don't feel well, but I don't like being yelled at. I am happy to help you through your frustration, but don't make me the bad guy."
It is quite possible that if you make it difficult for him to yell AT you but easy for him to yell TO you that he will express his frustrations as what they really are, frustrations, and find your support invaluable.
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It isn't your fault... I think that he is yelling at you because he is frustrated and you are the easiest target because you are right there. That, plus he gets away with it. You don't have to yell to stand your ground, in fact I think it's much more effective if you stay calm. "Why are you yelling at me? We both know it's not my fault, and I'm sorry that you don't feel well, but I don't like being yelled at. I am happy to help you through your frustration, but don't make me the bad guy."
It is quite possible that if you make it difficult for him to yell AT you but easy for him to yell TO you that he will express his frustrations as what they really are, frustrations, and find your support invaluable.
July 6, 2009 - 9:52pmThis Comment
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