I can only imagine the grief that I would feel if I heard that my partner had a terrible illness. I would likely range from scared to hysterical to worried. But then I would put on my big girl panties and consider the word "partner". I am newly diagnosed with ALS. I am considered young to have this. My partner is 5 years older than I am. And I have 2 young sons. I was devastated to find out that he is talking behind my back etc. Sharing information I don't wish to share.
No one ever asks to be a burden. Or to be ill. But it happens.
I will never be able to understand turning your back on your partner because they're ill. Yes at times it may bbe upsetting and overwhelming, but also consider what your partner is experiencing. I can't ever understand it because I would never leave that person due to their illness.
Imagine yourself getting a horrible life changing diagnosis. Now imagine that the person, YOUR PERSON is not going to be there for you because they can't handle it. It's a frightening concept.
So if you're writing on this board about how awful everything is. Take a breath. We are strangers we can't tell you what to do. But the very fact that you're here posting these questions and doubts tells me that you know the answer.
As a woman of 40 who now knows that I'm going to die well before I have a chance to see things in this world, my advice to you is pack your crap and get out. You don't get to play the victim here. Be sad, be mad, be scared, but it's not yours. So to all of your partners that you will be leaving.... I wish you peace and serenity and a stable and caring support system. You deserve at least that.
I pray that none of you ever learn of some illness or an illness for your child and find yourself quite as alone as I just did reading this board.
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I can only imagine the grief that I would feel if I heard that my partner had a terrible illness. I would likely range from scared to hysterical to worried. But then I would put on my big girl panties and consider the word "partner". I am newly diagnosed with ALS. I am considered young to have this. My partner is 5 years older than I am. And I have 2 young sons. I was devastated to find out that he is talking behind my back etc. Sharing information I don't wish to share.
July 12, 2017 - 7:27amNo one ever asks to be a burden. Or to be ill. But it happens.
I will never be able to understand turning your back on your partner because they're ill. Yes at times it may bbe upsetting and overwhelming, but also consider what your partner is experiencing. I can't ever understand it because I would never leave that person due to their illness.
Imagine yourself getting a horrible life changing diagnosis. Now imagine that the person, YOUR PERSON is not going to be there for you because they can't handle it. It's a frightening concept.
So if you're writing on this board about how awful everything is. Take a breath. We are strangers we can't tell you what to do. But the very fact that you're here posting these questions and doubts tells me that you know the answer.
As a woman of 40 who now knows that I'm going to die well before I have a chance to see things in this world, my advice to you is pack your crap and get out. You don't get to play the victim here. Be sad, be mad, be scared, but it's not yours. So to all of your partners that you will be leaving.... I wish you peace and serenity and a stable and caring support system. You deserve at least that.
I pray that none of you ever learn of some illness or an illness for your child and find yourself quite as alone as I just did reading this board.
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