You are sooo not selfish for wanting to take a break and I really don't think under the circumstances he has any say in the matter. Being a caregiver to a mentally ill spouse for the 8 years we've been together, I've actually sent my guy on vacation for 2 weeks to get away from me because I wanted the house to myself, not to just get a break from him. I'd have divorced him years ago if he hadn't given me space. He's in relapse currently and it's starting all over again but this time he isn't just sick - he is so cruel to me - and it sounds like your guy telling you you can't go is on par with that total lack of care for your well being. I say this with all the light and love in my heart: HONEY, take that trip and tell him if he wants you to come back he won't say another word about it. I have tried everything in my own relationship. If you give in to him, you will lose yourself for good and he will always expect you to give in. Don't be co-dependent like I've been just to prevent his hurt feelings. You NEED this and you have feelings too.
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You are sooo not selfish for wanting to take a break and I really don't think under the circumstances he has any say in the matter. Being a caregiver to a mentally ill spouse for the 8 years we've been together, I've actually sent my guy on vacation for 2 weeks to get away from me because I wanted the house to myself, not to just get a break from him. I'd have divorced him years ago if he hadn't given me space. He's in relapse currently and it's starting all over again but this time he isn't just sick - he is so cruel to me - and it sounds like your guy telling you you can't go is on par with that total lack of care for your well being. I say this with all the light and love in my heart: HONEY, take that trip and tell him if he wants you to come back he won't say another word about it. I have tried everything in my own relationship. If you give in to him, you will lose yourself for good and he will always expect you to give in. Don't be co-dependent like I've been just to prevent his hurt feelings. You NEED this and you have feelings too.
May 5, 2017 - 2:09pmThis Comment
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