I can totally relate, I married my husband knowing he was, married because he was sick. Yes I loved him, although we only been married for only a year, we've been together for 25 years before getting married. We have 5 children, 2 of them I had before I met him but he raised as his own. That's why I fell in love with him he lived my girls like his own. We planned on getting married for years, years went by and we just didn't find the need for that paper. About 6 years ago he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, I was devastating, to think the man that I loved, the one who I dreamed of getting old with could die. I did everything to help I made my kids eat healthy no take out, no salt what he had to eat we ate. But over time he just didn't care about his health, I couldn't make him eat healthy, he never would go to Dr until it's too late. I would begin but it didn't matter. One night I had to call 911 cause he passed out fell and hit his head, it was hours before they let me see him, they worked hard to bring him back, he stopped breathing, they lost him for a few seconds, but thank God they got him back. Being disabled at this time for almost a year and now forsure not going bk to work, his insurance was about to end. We always planned on marriage so we did it went to courthouse got married, he was insured. For the first week it felt like we fell in love all over again, but the last year has been the worst year of our relationship, he's depressed, mean, I think he blames me for his sickness. I can handle all that but we have a 4 year old daughter with her whole life ahead of her, I can't take the verbal abuse he gives her. The names he calls her, he's constantly yells at her for just being a kid. He was so great with our other 4, they are all over 18 now. I feel like I am not able to be happy with my daughter cause his mood dictates ours. My daughter loves her daddy, but when he was gone one day she told me I love this, when you and me are together, when you smile like you are right now that's how I like you mommy. Broke my heart, cause I want to always be like that with her. Everything I do is wrong. We don't have sex, he never compliments me for anything just negative comments. I tried to be I'm pathetic to put myself in his shoes, but being sick isn't a free pass to treat someone that way. Yes I vowed to love in sickness and in health, not the extra stuff that just cause he's sick should be tolerated. He's defiantly not the man I fell in love with, I knew this when I married him, but he's not even the man I married. If it was just me, I could let it go but it's my daughter and I'm ready for us to be happy together.
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I can totally relate, I married my husband knowing he was, married because he was sick. Yes I loved him, although we only been married for only a year, we've been together for 25 years before getting married. We have 5 children, 2 of them I had before I met him but he raised as his own. That's why I fell in love with him he lived my girls like his own. We planned on getting married for years, years went by and we just didn't find the need for that paper. About 6 years ago he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, I was devastating, to think the man that I loved, the one who I dreamed of getting old with could die. I did everything to help I made my kids eat healthy no take out, no salt what he had to eat we ate. But over time he just didn't care about his health, I couldn't make him eat healthy, he never would go to Dr until it's too late. I would begin but it didn't matter. One night I had to call 911 cause he passed out fell and hit his head, it was hours before they let me see him, they worked hard to bring him back, he stopped breathing, they lost him for a few seconds, but thank God they got him back. Being disabled at this time for almost a year and now forsure not going bk to work, his insurance was about to end. We always planned on marriage so we did it went to courthouse got married, he was insured. For the first week it felt like we fell in love all over again, but the last year has been the worst year of our relationship, he's depressed, mean, I think he blames me for his sickness. I can handle all that but we have a 4 year old daughter with her whole life ahead of her, I can't take the verbal abuse he gives her. The names he calls her, he's constantly yells at her for just being a kid. He was so great with our other 4, they are all over 18 now. I feel like I am not able to be happy with my daughter cause his mood dictates ours. My daughter loves her daddy, but when he was gone one day she told me I love this, when you and me are together, when you smile like you are right now that's how I like you mommy. Broke my heart, cause I want to always be like that with her. Everything I do is wrong. We don't have sex, he never compliments me for anything just negative comments. I tried to be I'm pathetic to put myself in his shoes, but being sick isn't a free pass to treat someone that way. Yes I vowed to love in sickness and in health, not the extra stuff that just cause he's sick should be tolerated. He's defiantly not the man I fell in love with, I knew this when I married him, but he's not even the man I married. If it was just me, I could let it go but it's my daughter and I'm ready for us to be happy together.
January 27, 2017 - 11:37amThis Comment
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