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I feel like we are married to the same person! I resolved to leave my marriage four years ago, after our oldest child graduated H.S. I had been married for 21 years to someone who once was goofy, fun-loving, and kind. We had a great sex life. That all changed about 15 years into our marriage. I married him when I was 19 and he 26. I think we just grew apart instead of closer together. We had not been intimate in over five years. Before I had my chance to escape, my husband suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and spent 17 days in the Neuro ICU. During that time he had numerous brain scans where they discovered he also had MS. Since that traumatic brain injury, he has not recovered mobility, has stopped working and filed for disability. He turned into a mean-spirited person. The only things that come out of his mouth are lies. He put on over 100 lbs. He resents our children (for their youth? for their agility? for my love?) and is nearly abusive to my elderly disabled mother (dementia, COPD, PAH) who lives in our home.
I've begun cutting myself to ease my own pain, disappointment, and despair of being trapped in an unloving, one-sided marriage. I'm only 45 years old now, we just had our 25th wedding anniversary, and I hate waking up most mornings. I feel trapped. He acts like an angel around others, including people in our Church, and never says a negative word about me. If I were to leave him, I would be labeled a bi@#h and would lose what few friends I have. The only ones that would support me would be my two older children, who see their father for what he has become.
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I feel like we are married to the same person! I resolved to leave my marriage four years ago, after our oldest child graduated H.S. I had been married for 21 years to someone who once was goofy, fun-loving, and kind. We had a great sex life. That all changed about 15 years into our marriage. I married him when I was 19 and he 26. I think we just grew apart instead of closer together. We had not been intimate in over five years. Before I had my chance to escape, my husband suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and spent 17 days in the Neuro ICU. During that time he had numerous brain scans where they discovered he also had MS. Since that traumatic brain injury, he has not recovered mobility, has stopped working and filed for disability. He turned into a mean-spirited person. The only things that come out of his mouth are lies. He put on over 100 lbs. He resents our children (for their youth? for their agility? for my love?) and is nearly abusive to my elderly disabled mother (dementia, COPD, PAH) who lives in our home.
June 11, 2016 - 5:39pmI've begun cutting myself to ease my own pain, disappointment, and despair of being trapped in an unloving, one-sided marriage. I'm only 45 years old now, we just had our 25th wedding anniversary, and I hate waking up most mornings. I feel trapped. He acts like an angel around others, including people in our Church, and never says a negative word about me. If I were to leave him, I would be labeled a bi@#h and would lose what few friends I have. The only ones that would support me would be my two older children, who see their father for what he has become.
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